I am a long-time follower of PostSecret, and whenever I catch up on my Google Reader RSS feeds (which I just did… insane task), I always savor the secrets of Sundays past. This secret stuck out for me in a major way – as I have come to learn that the idea of “right” is often misconstrued in society and also within our own minds.
If you are waiting for the “right time” to do something… you are already behind on making good, life changing decisions for yourself. Let go of “right.” Be free from the stipulations you have put on yourself. Realize that anything worth doing will be difficult to accomplish and your fortitude will be tested every step of the way. Be open to the journey – it’s the only way you’ll ever move forward.
It’ll be messy. If you are worried about doing something “the right way,” it’ll be even messier. Do it your way – not the way you think it should be done. We often try to combine society’s morals with our own to protect ourselves from backlash, ridicule or judgment. But, I believe this to be a fruitless waste of time. Focus on your happiness and your happiness only. Be selfish. The only person who is truly going to put your happiness first is yourself. Own this knowledge.
We grow up thinking we’re not supposed to be selfish (and largely, we aren’t), but when your future well-being is in jeopardy (whether emotionally, mentally, physically, etc.), then I say be as selfish as possible. If you have led a self-less life, this will be difficult, but it won’t last forever. The hardest battles we will ever fight are the ones against ourselves. Overcome your need to “appear a certain way” and you will unlock strength within yourself you never knew you had.
And at the end of the day, if you are leading a life that you are proud of – not your mom, your dad, your best friend – then you have succeeded. Your life is your own. Make it fantastic, because no one else is going to work as hard at it as you will.
You can take that to the bank.